Navigating Constructs in Gender & Sex
“Comparing myself to constructs in gender and sex. How masculine I am and how feminine I am.”
This is an interesting construct that plagues the minds of many who are transitioning or embarking on a spiritual journey of awareness to balance their own masculinity and femininity.
One thing to focus on primarily is the construct of what these dualities even mean.
Tbh, the way we humans have been conditioned to believe in the construct of male and feminine is mad, to say the least, but also, each one merits some great qualities, I for one, want to encourage and promote.
To go a little more in-depth, let me address the spiritual understanding of divine masculinity and divine feminity because this underpins everything.
Your essence( soul incarnation) drives us to portray whatever we see fit according to the experiences or cycle we need to fulfil.
You are both daily, always, infinitely prescribing to the constant duality, polarity of masculine and feminine, negative and positive, yin and the yang etc.
We need this in order to create, we are this in the form of our own creation and divine eclectic awareness. What seems like a comparison of what “I’m meant to look like” is merely your ego’s trickery in playing the “game” of life to ensure you fit in and are not rejected. But to be really honest, who can reject you unless you reject yourself?
There’s never a time where your truest divine spirit questions what it is.
Understanding Your Ego
The job of our ego is of course designed to provide calculations based on the perceived environment, the funny thing is though, how your ego perceives info is based on bias. So, technically, you’re never actually “right”, just conveniently influenced. Not a bad thing, but we have to call a spade a spade.
Your need to compare yourself is literally a fallacy that has been created by your own experiences that you've called forth to demonstrate in order to self-actualise. Nothing wrong with that, right? So then if this is true, what makes you think you are in actual fact portraying yourself “incorrectly?”
Looking at my work on “I want to understand why I feel so bad about my body and what to focus on to feel better about my body” it’s quite clear that everything really stems from an illusion of us believing something as fact growing up then realising it really isn’t!
Your ability to feel connected to this ever-flowing yin and yang of the cosmic divine masculine and feminine energy is nothing short of mesmerising and beautifully created, why would you go and tarnish a work of art by taking a huge dump in the middle of it with all these negative criticisms that you’re apparently not doing it “right?” Instead, please start to embrace and explore the divinity within, the echo chamber of your essence and soul that is so bloody powerful and awakened to who and what you are beyond this human experience and dense vibrational plane. I encourage you to take heed of what your body is screaming at you that it physically needs, listen intently to what carries warmth and resonance before you do or say anything. This practice will help you to walk in alignment and manifest more like-minded, equally beautiful beings to fly into your orbit and vice-versa.
What you’re doing by second-guessing, comparing your body and your heart, is taking a dump on your cosmic and ever-flowing and evolving consciousness. It’s sad, unnecessary and just uncomfortable.
My Suggestions
When you next have a thought that is negative about your masculinity or femininity;
Go to your mirror, high five yourself, and say an affirmative sentence e.g. I am beautifully expressing myself, as the perfect duality of divine masculinity and femininity.
Stare into your eyes, see yourself, do not lose that gaze. It is a window to delve into the depths of your truth. Stay present and feel.
Repeat: I will not allow negative thoughts to define my experience on earth. My thoughts are projected distorted views from my past that has no relevance now. ( insert any more affirmative re-written narratives here)
Whether you like it or not you are the most beautifully perfect imperfection of divine mastery and alchemy. Stop the charade that says any different and lean in and face bravely the fears and blocks that need to be unearthed that have limited you from connecting and manifesting within your higher energetic frequency.
